Loving While Hurting As A Man

Life has a way of delivering unexpected blows, and as men, we often feel the pressure to stay strong, quiet and composed, even when we're hurting inside.

According to the American Psychological Association, men are less likely than women to seek help for emotional struggles, leading to prolonged suffering and a potential worsening of mental health issues. Yet, the ability to love others while we are hurting is a testament to our strength and resilience as men. 

Here are three key actions that can lead to healing yourself while loving others.

• Accept Your Pain: Bottling up your feelings can lead to greater distress. Give yourself permission to feel and express your pain, whether through talking to a trusted friend or writing in a journal.

• Seek Support:  Whether it’s a professional counselor, a support group like Kings & Priests, or a close confidant, sharing your burden can provide new perspectives to lighten your emotional load.

• Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a loved one in distress. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, and remind yourself that healing is a process that takes time.

Don't allow anyone to convince you that you are selfish for taking care of you. Loving while hurting requires a balance of self-care and empathy, allowing you to be there for those you care about without neglecting your own needs. 

Reply "Amen" if this helped you. 

Love you, brother!

Dr. Robert J. Watkins, Founder

A merry heart does good like medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones.
- Proverbs 17:22